Sarah Asquith-Vallance

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When Affirmations Don't Work

About 15 years ago I heard about affirmations from a college tutor who loved them, so I thought I would give them a try, and guess what, they didn't work.

Have you had the experience of saying your affirmations daily, maybe even three times a day and the affirmations don’t seem to work either?

Your life is still the same, that abundance of money has not appeared and you still struggling to get the ideal clients?

I mastered affirmations a couple of years after my first 'failed' attempt and I now use them daily for myself and with my clients. However, I do get other people saying this to me: “I do all my affirmations but they don’t work. I don’t believe in saying affirmations anymore.”

I understand where they are coming from. And yes it can be so frustrating. For many people, they probably have read books or watched videos where they are told that they just have to affirm and things will come their way.

It’s really not as simple as that. Of course it's not, because your superpower, your brain and mindset is running the show, when is it ever simple?

Here's the thing...

What is the point of affirming to yourself that you are a millionaire when deep down you do not believe it is ever possible?

Or you are affirming that you are a millionaire but you are at home twiddling your thumbs waiting for things to happen?

Worse still to affirm that you are a millionaire but you go about seeing the world and doing things like a pauper.

Of course, the affirmations are not going to work and THEY NEVER WILL if that's the LACK mindset that's running the show.

When we live our lives from a place of LACK we often blame others or our environment and in 2020 this happened A LOT.

They do not want to look into themselves and ask themselves what it is that is causing them to be in the situation in the first place.

A person in lack is a victim. A victim blames, a victor takes personal responsibility. So affirmations must be said and experienced from a position of a victor, and not a victim. Even if you are not a victor yet, you have to start shifting your mindset, stop pointing fingers and ask how can you help yourself.

I heard this very great analogy from one of my mentors, David Neagle. He said that we all know that air is abundant and available everywhere, but if we are choking and we cannot breathe, no matter how many times we affirm: “Air comes to me easily and effortlessly”, we still can’t breathe! We have to find out what is causing us to choke in the first place.”

This is the same when it comes to money and abundance in our business.

We all know that we live in an abundant Universe but if we don’t know what is blocking our money channel no matter how many times we affirm “money comes to me easily and effortlessly” it is not going to happen.

Abundance/ Money affirmations only work if:

  • you believe deep down that what you affirm is true for you

  • you are dedicated to doing the work to change your mindset

  • you are willing to move out of your comfort zone

  • you know you can solve your money problems with a victor mentality

  • you get yourself into the right energetic place before you even open your laptop

  • you have other bad habits (not directly related to money) that you are willing to overcome

Your Journal Prompts:

  1. Make a list of things you have been resisting to change even though you know you need to do for better results in your life.

  2. Make the decision to move through the resistance, to do it anyway. Go through your list and check each item off every day. This means you are aiming to conquer your resistance daily.

  3. Say your affirmations with a strong conviction and a feeling as if they have already happened.


Sarah x

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